Is This It? Did I Miss My Chance at Something More?

It’s a question that doesn’t always come out loud.

It creeps in during the quiet hours — when the house is still, when the phone isn’t buzzing, when the distractions fade.

And there it is, uninvited but persistent:

“Is this it?”
“Did I miss my chance?”
“Is it too late to want more?”

If you’ve felt this — maybe at 3am when you can’t sleep, or in a supermarket aisle, or halfway through folding the washing — you’re not alone. And you’re not broken.

The Quiet Ache of “Stuck”

Many women I work with are in their 40s or 50s. From the outside, life can look fine. Sometimes even successful. Many have done all the “right” things — cared for families, built careers, weathered storms.

But inside? There’s an ache.
Not a dramatic midlife crisis. Not a need to run away to Bali or start over completely.
Just a quiet sense of… something missing.

Not quite sadness. Not quite restlessness.
More like a whisper:
There’s something more. I don’t know what. But this isn’t quite it.

You’re Not Too Old, Too Late, or Too Much

Let me say this clearly:
Wanting more does not make you ungrateful.
Feeling lost does not make you weak.
And wondering if you missed your chance does not mean your life is over.

You may not want a dramatic reinvention. Maybe you just want to feel like you again — underneath all the roles you’ve played and the expectations you’ve carried.

And that is valid. It’s enough. You are enough.

Why This Feeling Is Actually a Sign of Readiness

Feeling stuck can feel like failure.
But often, it’s the first sign of aliveness returning.

It means something inside you is waking up.
That part of you that went quiet while life got busy or hard or heavy — she’s stirring.

She’s not here to tear your life apart. She’s here to invite you back to yourself.

That question — “Is this it?” — might just be the beginning of something new.
Not a breakdown. A turning point.

You Don’t Need All the Answers Yet

You don’t need to know exactly what you want. You don’t need a five-year plan.

You just need space to explore.
Gentle support.
And permission to ask better questions:

If this resonates, you’re not alone. And you’re not too late.

This chapter is still yours to write. And you don’t have to write it alone.

If this blog resonates, you might be interested in my “Getting Unstuck” Mentorship course, which starts in January 2026. Email me for more details: susie@pauseandbreathe.co.uk

This blog was written by the co-founder of Pause & Breathe: Susie Hooper. Over the last decade Susie has changed her life dramatically - from leaving an unhappy marriage, to leaving a solid career in Social Work to start up a not-for-profit wellbeing company. Susie managed to get unstuck - and she’d love to help you too.